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Information about anger1

Published on February 4, 2008

Author: Randolfo

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It’s Not That Easy:  It’s Not That Easy Why Am I So Angry Inside? Slide2:  Ephesians 4:29-32 26 "Be angry, and do not sin": do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 27 nor give place to the devil. 28 Let him who stole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with his hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need. 29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. Slide3:  30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you. Anger is Comprehensive:  Anger is Comprehensive Physical Process: BP, pulse, adrenaline Relational Emotion Action: express or repress, withdraw or rage Cognitions: involves our beliefs & values History: the baggage of our past Environment Spiritual Anger:  Anger Different Kinds of It Slide7:  Vs. 31 “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.” Bitterness:  Bitterness Sharp, pungent, venomous Bitterness resides in our spirits Bitterness is revealed in our speech “The Grump” – “Uses angry, griping pessimism as a shield against further pain” Wrath:  Wrath To burn Passionate anger, rage Exasperation that boils up and soon subsides Angry exploders… like an active volcano, there is always the threat of eruption Proverbs 29:22 “An angry man stirs up strife, And a furious man abounds in transgression.” Anger:  Anger Lasting animosity and resentment Unwillingness to forgive Settled determination in one’s soul to make them pay Clamor:  Clamor Harsh, abusive, insulting words Quarrelling Shouting, yelling, screaming Word where we get “blasphemy” Evil Speaking:  Evil Speaking Words chosen for the purpose of wounding others Insinuations Calling a person’s motives into question “Be it ever so mild and soft a tone or with ever such professions of kindness” – John Wesley Malice:  Malice A spiteful desire to injure another Unashamed meanness Motto: “I don’t get mad, I get even” Where Does It Come From?:  Where Does It Come From? Anger Inside Why We are Susceptible to Anger:  Why We are Susceptible to Anger Unresolved hurts (real or imagined) World View Learned patterns 1. Past Hurts:  1. Past Hurts Situations, words can remind us of past hurts We can lash out to prevent future hurt We can learn the wrong lessons from past experiences 2. World View: Our Belief Structure:  2. World View: Our Belief Structure Life: Supposed to be fair, but isn’t to me People: Out to get me Self: I dislike yourself and will take it out on you God: It does not occur to me that God has a plan and is providentially overseeing my life… it seems like chaos to me 3. Learned Patterns:  3. Learned Patterns Proverbs 22:24-25 “Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, Lest you learn his ways And set a snare for your soul.” We can grow up with anger and think it’s normal We can train ourselves to use anger to manipulate people and get our way Anger is a Response to Threats to One of Two Desires:  Anger is a Response to Threats to One of Two Desires To feel that life is under control Self-esteem “Anger is a experience that occurs when a goal, value, or expectation that I have chosen has been blocked or when my sense of personal worth is threatened.” -- Glenn Taylor & Rod Wilson Responding to Threats:  Responding to Threats When the response is directed inward: Fear When the response is directed outward: Anger Both fear and anger are accountable emotions. We choose how we respond to threats Ways We Express Anger:  Ways We Express Anger Three Case Studies Ways We Express Anger:  Ways We Express Anger Isolating: Withdrawing, pouting Dominating: Throwing our weight around Retaliating: Getting revenge in active or passive ways 1. Isolating:  1. Isolating Case Study: The Elder Brother Luke 15 Luke 15:28 “But he was angry and would not go in. Therefore his father came out and pleaded with him.” Vs. 29 “So he answered and said to his father, ‘Lo, these many years I have been serving you; I never transgressed your commandment at any time; and yet you never gave me a young goat, that I might make merry with my friends.’” 1. Isolating:  1. Isolating Case Study: The Elder Brother Luke 15 Luke 15:28 “But he was angry and would not go in. Therefore his father came out and pleaded with him.” Vs. 29 “So he answered and said to his father, ‘Lo, these many years I have been serving you; I never transgressed your commandment at any time; and yet you never gave me a young goat, that I might make merry with my friends.’” 2. Dominating:  2. Dominating Case Study: Nabal 1st Samuel 25 1st Samuel 25:10-11 “Then Nabal answered David’s servants, and said, ‘Who is David, and who is the son of Jesse? There are many servants nowadays who break away each one from his master. Shall I then take my bread and my water and my meat that I have killed for my shearers, and give it to men when I do not know where they are from?’” Slide26:  Vs. 21 “Now David had said, ‘Surely in vain I have protected all that this fellow has in the wilderness, so that nothing was missed of all that belongs to him. And he has repaid me evil for good.’” Vs. 37-38 “So it was, in the morning, when the wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became like a stone. Then it came about, after about ten days, that the LORD struck Nabal, and he died.” Vulnerable to Dominating Anger:  Vulnerable to Dominating Anger Those who are task & goal oriented Those who are highly competitive Those who are more self-centered than average Type A personalities 3. Retaliating:  3. Retaliating Case Study: Cain Genesis 4 Genesis 4:4-6 “Abel also brought of the firstborn of his flock and of their fat. And the LORD respected Abel and his offering, but He did not respect Cain and his offering. And Cain was very angry, and his countenance fell. So the LORD said to Cain, ‘Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it." Slide29:  Vs. 8 Now Cain talked with Abel his brother; and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother and killed him. Anger:  Anger How to Deal with It Slide31:  Admit that you are angry Call your anger by name Ask yourself, “Why am I really angry?” Use your strong emotions to work toward a solution (instead of dissolution) Distinguish between anger and aggression Vs. 26 “Be angry, and do not sin” Slide32:  Commit to managing your anger instead of letting it manage you Proverbs 16:32 “He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” Managed anger asks, “How can I make the situation better?” Mismanaged anger asks, “Who is to blame?” or “How can I make them pay?” Mismanaged Anger Traps Us in Our Past:  Mismanaged Anger Traps Us in Our Past It chains us to our offenders It forces us to relive our hurts repeatedly without release & healing It means that we embrace our identity as a powerless victim Hebrews 10:15 “Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled” An Alternative to the Anger Lifestyle:  An Alternative to the Anger Lifestyle Ephesians 4:32 “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you.” Kind, not bitter or malicious Tenderhearted, not full of wrath Forgiving, not retaliating Forgiven-aware, not self-righteous

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