Published on December 23, 2007
Attraction and Close RelationshipsChapter 10: Attraction and Close Relationships Chapter 10 Announcements: Announcements Extra Credit assignment #3! Evaluate a magazine ad - Due Tues Nov 20th Final paper should be TYPED, PROOFREAD, STAPLED and no more than 2 pages double spaced Don’t forget to turn in the magazine ad with your paper!!! Major Question about Relationships: Major Question about Relationships Where does love go? Why do happy couples become unhappy couples? What is a successful intimate relationship?: What is a successful intimate relationship? Two components of a successful relationship Stability: the relationship does not end in breakup Satisfaction: the relationship fulfills the need of both partners Are relationships stable?: Are relationships stable? Problems with studying dating relationships Statistics on the stability of marital relationships When do marriages end? Consequences of instability Building a Model of Relationship Change: Building a Model of Relationship Change Initial Satisfaction Marital Dissolution ? Where does love go? Where did it come from?: Where does love go? Where did it come from? Attraction: what attracts you to someone else? Physical attractiveness Computer dating study Attractiveness #1 predictor of desire for second date! Just how attractive do we want our partner to be?: Just how attractive do we want our partner to be? Dating service study Matching hypothesis People are attracted to those of equal physical attractiveness However, if no fear of rejection, we prefer the most attractive person available Why is physical attractiveness so important?: Why is physical attractiveness so important? Halo effect (What is beautiful is good) Knowing about one quality makes you assume that you know a lot about other qualities Attractive school children study Attractiveness of defendants How Can You Look Attractive? : How Can You Look Attractive? Attractiveness can depend on context Assimilation and contrast effects Couples photograph study Rate man standing next to attractive woman ½ told unrelated; ½ told he was boyfriend Same sex friend study Friends – assimilation; strangers - contrast The Effect of Personality on Attraction: The Effect of Personality on Attraction We like those with positive attributes So, do we like the most perfect people? Pratfall effect - we like people who are almost perfect but have some faults Other Factors that Affect Attraction: Other Factors that Affect Attraction Familiarity mere exposure effect (Zajonc): We tend to rate novel stimuli better after we have been repeatedly exposed to it. Other Factors that Affect Attraction: Other Factors that Affect Attraction Reciprocity - We like those who like us But do we like those who immediately like us? Condition 1: they like you from the start Condition 2: they never like you Condition 3: they like you, then don’t Condition 4: they don’t like you, then do We like those who we must win over! What do all of these factors have in common?: What do all of these factors have in common? Rewards and costs! So where does this get us? Attraction is not the answer - The forces that draw us together are not the ones that eventually pull us apart!