Published on January 28, 2008
Sexually Exploited Minors in the Foster Care Setting: Sexually Exploited Minors in the Foster Care Setting April 27, 2006 Alameda County Sexually Exploited Minors Conference Goal: Goal To gain knowledge and change our perspective of the limitations and challenges of working with SEM in the system Exercise: It’s all about you!: Exercise: It’s all about you! Get up out of your chairs. When a number is called, form a group with that number of people. Listen for the question; answer the question in your group. Another number will be called; break and form a new group. Now let’s imagine…: Now let’s imagine… A perfect moment, when everything seemed right—when the “universe” came together and life was “right” for the moment. Remember how that felt. “Living in regard at all times….” Question…: Question… What do we want for the Children? Foster Care: Foster Care What do we have to offer? What is the structure, limitations, challenges and opportunities within the group home system? More questions to consider!: More questions to consider! What is behavioral? What is clinical? What is street sense?... applied to this environment? Know your enemy....: Know your enemy.... the strategies of the pimp rape intimidation coercion illusions offered:: illusions offered: grooming regard affection safety bling family power importance ethical system affirming not shaming freedom vs. structure Question to consider…: Question to consider… Does a pimp/exploiter really offer any of those things? How? Why? What are SEMs feeling?Can they report feelings? : What are SEMs feeling? Can they report feelings? Age The Stockholm Syndrome Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome Numbing Shame Development stage that impact occurred Slide12: “ Do you sparkle? Remember…: Remember… The language of shame, the language of regard (Remember the visualizations!) Honesty vs. hustle (Can you feel the difference? If not, how do you tell the difference) Lecturing vs. wondering (The “sideways” share) The power of the “look good” (Imagine!) Rules: Choosing them carefully!: Rules: Choosing them carefully! Enforceable vs. unenforceable What’s the appeal, what’s the consequence? Why does the rule exist? What is the goal of this rule and how does it align with the goals of the youth? What are the real consequences of breaking the rule? (ponder, imagine, question, listen…) Some last thoughts to share…: Some last thoughts to share… The power of love When your gut beats out your heart The work, and what we bring to it Find ways to share the emotional load and talk about it (and talk, talk, talk about it!) If you can’t get out of your gut and back into your heart, what are your options? And finally: And finally …for nothing gets to the heart as fast as the truth!