Published on July 31, 2014
White Ribbon campaign and dash : Nick Ransom and Brianna Smith NC State University WGS/STS 210 Women and Gender in Science and Technology White Ribbon campaign and dash stop dating violence and abuse WHITE RIBBON CAMPAIGN : WHO ARE WE? WHITE RIBBON CAMPAIGN Calling men and boys: Calling men and boys The White Ribbon Campaign works towards inspiring men of all ages to embrace change. Men can make a difference regarding violence, harassment and sexual assault . Their vision is for a masculinity that embodies the best qualities of being human. They believe that men are part of the solution and part of a future that is safe and equitable for all people. Education: Education White Ribbon positively teaches men and boys by offering educational programming that challenges patriarchal language and behaviors that lead to violence against women. The future: Violent relationships in adolescence can have serious ramifications for victims: Many will continue to be abused in their adult relationships and are at a higher risk for substance abuse, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior, and suicide. The future Things Men Can Do to TAKE A STAND Against Sexual Assault and Harassment: Things Men Can Do to TAKE A STAND Against Sexual Assault and Harassment SIX PowerPoint Presentation: This issue is real. Believe survivors’ experiences. Your support will make a difference. Tell them ‘ it’s not your fault ’ No one asks for or deserves to be sexually assaulted or harassed. BELIEVE it’s not your fault PowerPoint Presentation: Don’t walk on by if you witness harassment or an assault on the street or anywhere: assess the risk, then intervene and confront or defuse the situation TRUST YOUR GUT Call 911. PowerPoint Presentation: Ask if you can help people who have experienced violence and connect them to support services. Help the organizations that support survivors of violence. OFFER SUPPORT PowerPoint Presentation: Lead by example. Question your own attitudes and behaviors and how they may disrespect or harm women. Sexist language and street harassment all contribute to a IT STARTS WITH YOU culture of violence . PowerPoint Presentation: Talk to your family, friends and co-workers about the roles they can play in ending violence against women. Challenge men and young men in your life to make a difference! BE A ROLE MODEL PowerPoint Presentation: The White Ribbon campaign offers the resources you need to get involved and make a difference. LEARN MORE GET INVOLVED! MYTHS: MYTHS There are many misconceptions often used by individuals to justify the domestic abuse. Many do not want to believe they are in an abusive relationship or are abusing their partners and use the following statements to rationalize the abusive behavior from their partners or themselves: PowerPoint Presentation: Domestic violence is rare. Domestic violence is not a problem in my community. Domestic violence only happens to poor women. Domestic violence only happens to women of color. Some people deserve to be hit. Domestic violence is a personal problem between families. If it were that bad, they would just leave. Alcohol and drug abuse cause domestic violence. Domestic violence is only a one time, isolate incident. Domestic violence only happens between husband and wife. Domestic violence is not a crime. PowerPoint Presentation: DATING ABUSE STOPS HERE DASH Mission statement: Mission statement We strive to: Raise awareness in our community of the magnitude, proliferation and dangers of teen dating abuse ; Educate and encourage teens to engage in healthy relationship behavior; Help teens, and parents, to recognize and act upon warning signs; Provide resources to identify places of help for teens in distress, or in potentially dangerous dating situations. What is dating abuse?: What is dating abuse? Dating abuse is a pattern of controlling behavior that someone uses against a girlfriend or a boyfriend. At the heart of dating abuse is and . POWER CONTROL Violence wheel of power and control : Violence wheel of power and control Prevalence : Girls are more likely to yell, threaten to hurt themselves, pinch, slap, scratch, or kick ; Boys injure girls more severely and frequently ; Some teen victims experience violence occasionally ; Others are abused more often...sometimes daily. Prevalence Teen dating violence runs across race, gender, and socioeconomic lines. Both males and females are victims. GUESS THE STATS - 1 : GUESS THE STATS - 1 1. A comparison of Intimate Partner Violence rates between teens and adults reveals that ________ are at higher risk of intimate partner abuse. TEENS Let your heart rule: Let your heart rule GUESS THE STATS - 2 : GUESS THE STATS - 2 2.“_______of female and _________of male high school students endorse some form of sexual coercion, including unwanted kissing, hugging, genital contact, and sexual intercourse . 77% 67% GUESS THE STATS - 3 : GUESS THE STATS - 3 3. Teen dating abuse most often takes place in the _________of one of the partners. HOME GUESS THE STATS - 4 : GUESS THE STATS - 4 4. About ___________teens report verbal, physical, emotional or sexual abuse each year 1 IN 4 GUESS THE STATS - 5 : GUESS THE STATS - 5 5. Only ___________ of teens who have been in or known about an abusive dating relationship report having told anyone about it. 33% GUESS THE STATS - 6: GUESS THE STATS - 6 6. ______ of parents surveyed either believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue. 81% Dating violence can take place in person or electronically, such as repeated texting or posting sexual pictures of a partner online. : Dating violence can take place in person or electronically , such as repeated texting or posting sexual pictures of a partner online. UNDERSTANDING DATING VIOLENCE Physical: Hitting Slapping Punching Shoving Pinching Kicking Pulling hair Throwing objects Choking Using a weapon Physical Psychological / Emotional : Ignoring the partner’s feelings Intimidation and isolation Displaying inappropriate anger Damaging personal property Preventing the partner from leaving Humiliating a partner in public or private Excessive or abusive online contact S haring private information online Psychological / Emotional Sexual: Unwanted touching, kissing, or other sexual activity Making unwanted sexual comments Posting the partner’s private sexual photos online Not allowing the partner to use birth control Sexual verbal: Name calling Putdowns of the person or their family and friends Yelling or shouting Insulting the partner’s beliefs and values Using sexually derogatory names Threatening the person or their family and friends verbal financial: Stealing your money Using your ATM or credit card without your consent Deliberately breaking or damaging your possessions Not letting you go to work Stress leads to job loss financial Warning Signs : Extreme jealousy Controlling behavior Quick sexual involvement Unpredictable mood wings Alcohol or drug use Explosive anger Isolating a partner from friends and family Using force during an argument Showing hypersensitivity Believes in rigid gender roles Blames others for his or her problems or feelings Cruel to animals or children Verbally abusive Abused former partners Threatens violence Warning Signs Dating Abuse PSA: Dating Abuse PSA Cultural factors for dating abuse: Race, Gender, Societal, Legal, and Institutional Cultural factors for dating abuse african-american: african-american Domestic situations are seen as a family matter and should not be reported . Many African-Americans handle conflicts by expressing anger; therefore, females may react to a boyfriend’s assault with verbal and physical aggression. Because of this behavior, adults might often view her as less of a victim African-Americans admit to refusing counseling because they feel that mental health professionals do not give them practical and realistic advice on dealing with the abuser . African-American girls receive conflicting messages from society; factors such as racism , sexism and classism become major barriers to their attempts to develop a strong sense of self and avoid abusive relationships Latin-americans: Latin-americans Teenage dating is often forbidden and in many cases, a chaperone may be required. Latina females are taught to be very submissive and subservient; take care of home ; be faithful to their partners; and not focus on careers. This type of “role” in a relationship will most often keep a young girl from reporting any abuse against her . She may possibly even view the abuse as being her fault . Latino males usually control the household . They are taught to work; be very macho ; and pampered by their spouses. It is also acceptable in Latino culture for males to have more than one dating partner at a time . A Latino male who is an abuser may feel that abuse against his partner is evidence of maintaining his “machismo” or macho behavior. It can be seen as a way to prove who is “in charge.” Asian Pacific islander american : Asian Pacific islander american Teenage dating is often forbidden. Thus, when Western and non Western cultural norms clash and dating violence occurs , it is extremely hard for these teens to disclose what is happening to them for fear of how their parents will respond . Immigrants from war torn countries such as Vietnam, Laos, and Cambodia often minimize their abusive relationships. They compare the dating violence to the more severe and frightening violence they may have experienced in their home country. The young Asian/Pacific Islander woman can be considered as one who balances the family’s respectability; is sexually submissive to her male partner ; and isolated to cultural differences between American norms and Asian/Pacific Islander norms. Domestic violence is invisible in this community and a teenage girl who finds herself in an abusive relationship may feel she must stay due to lack of support. Gays Lesbian Bi-Sexual Transgendered Americans: Gays Lesbian Bi-Sexual Transgendered Americans Invisibility is an issue for gay and lesbian teens because they face issues of disapproval and isolation based on their sexual identity . Gay/Lesbian teens often lack positive role models for healthy relationships due to their isolation . Gay/Lesbian teens in abusive relationships reinforce what may already be low self-esteem or shame. Because of this they may not trust anyone with the knowledge of their abuse for fear of coming out or not being accepted for their lifestyle choice . Homophobia among adults, teachers , youth workers, parents, and other caring adults makes it difficult for gay/lesbian teens to report abuse Gender: Gender Females learn at an early age that males should be in control: i.e. men should be providers for the household. In teen relationships, many young women look toe their boyfriends to abide by gender roles by paying for dates, driving the car, giving their girlfriends money , etc . Females are encouraged to accept the role of being nurturing, passive , submissive , and dependent upon males Males are socialized to exercise power and control over others . If a male exhibits signs of weakness, he is labeled as a wimp, sissy, fag, acting like a “girl”, etc. Societal: Societal Society presents images of violence through the media as heroic. Contemporary songs distort the male female relationship by telling men to take charge of their women. Bystanders lack responsiveness in many violent situations. The do not intervene or call for help. Young adults do not have the resources to leave the area or to change schools. Legal : Legal Teenage victims of violence do not usually know their rights. The majority of young people mistrust or fear the police. Young girls having to explain their situation to a man in many cases cause them to not report the incident. Most policemen and women are overworked and may not have the necessary skills to address this issue. Family as an institution: Family as an institution Many children come from abusive homes where violence is a way of life. Parents do not always take teen dating violence seriously. Most teens refuse to confide in their parents, because the parents might stop them from dating altogether. Many families do not practice open and honest communication White Ribbon – Dash Project: White Ribbon – Dash Project Washington DC July 19, 2014 Nick Ransom with Wendy Claunch (Vice President of DASH): Nick Ransom with Wendy Claunch (Vice President of DASH) Wendy Claunch is the content manager and technical writer for DASH. The combined DASH and WHITE RIBBON display: The combined DASH and WHITE RIBBON display Materials for our exhibit were provided by DASH. These items included a green throw for the table, a banner, about 200 bracelets that were inscribed with “dating abuse stops here”, 150 brochures and 100 flyers. In addition to these materials, we made about 100 white ribbons, and the trifold display board. People at the booth asking questions: People at the booth asking questions Photos from the event: Photos from the event Signatures Received: Signatures Received Question 1.: Question 1. Did you know that one in four people will be the victim of abuse? Question 2: Question 2 Do you know anyone who has been the victim of abuse? Reflections on the day: Reflections on the day My favorite male interview: "I think dating abuse is a system of patterns and behaviors that occur between a man and his spouse or whoever he or she is in a relationship with. This can be anything from sexual abuse to verbal abuse. I guess that would also include emotional and physical abuse too then." "I really like all the information that you have listed on your fliers and poster! But yeah, I always had a vague idea of what the warning signs were but never really knew for sure. I just figured I'd know it when I see it. It's like common sense. I didn't know that people in these kinds of relationships should create a safety plan for getting out. I guess you can never be to careful when it comes to protecting yourself" - Josh from Montgomery County Maryland (White male. He took one of everything) Favorite female interview: "WOW! Just WOW! I'm so happy all of yall are doing this! This makes my day so much better. Seeing young people, especially young men coming out here to educate the public." "Dating abuse to me is when a male tries to harm the female he is in a relationship with emotionally, mentally or physically. Sometimes I guess it could be the other way around too... But I don't think it's that common" "I didn't know people will try to limit your social circle. I mean I guess my boyfriend could want me to himself all the time. But hopefully he would never keep me from going out and getting some me time with my friends. That's eye opening." - Tahlya from Huston Texas (African American female. She took one of everything and a few extra for her friends) What have we learned: What have we learned We have learned through this process that no one is immune to violence. We have learned that abuse strikes men, women, and children of all nationalities, ages, educational levels, and income levels. We have learned that even those that have a strong support system fall victim to abuse. We have learned that the abused is most often silent enabling the abuse to escalate. We have learned that there are warning signs that we need to be aware of so that we can help others in need. We have learned that we need to stop others from abusing by talking, educating, mentoring, and campaigning against abuse. Key Pints to Remember: Key Pints to Remember ANYONE can be a victim of dating violence. Victims (and abusers) come from all age groups, races, classes and backgrounds. ABUSE gets worse over time. It may begin with verbal abuse and escalate to physical or sexual assault or other violence. YOU cannot change the abuser. For any change to take place, the abuser must take responsibility for his/her behavior. Where to go for help: Where to go for help National TEEN Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474 TTY : 1-866-331-8453 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233 ) National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673 ) Thank you : Nickolas Ransom and Brianna Smith Thank you Works Cited: Works Cited American Bar Association. (2009, February 22). Teen Dating Violence Facts. Retrieved July 20, 2014, from National Teen Dating Violence Prevention Initiative: http://www.clotheslineproject.org/teendatingviolencefacts.pdf Break The Cycle . (2014, March 8). College Dating Violence and Abuse Poll 2011 . Retrieved July 21, 2014, from Break the Cycle: https://www.breakthecycle.org/college-dating-violence-and-abuse-poll Break the Cycle . (2014, July 26). Dating Violence 101 . Retrieved July 26, 2014, from breakthecycle.org: http://www.breakthecycle.org/what-is-dating-violence Break the Cycle. (2011, February 9). Let Your Heart Rule. Washington , DC, United States of America. 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